Is Love Marriage really a Love Marriage in India Now!!!

Marriage is considered one of the most important part of life for every individual in India. Whether it be any religion it has same important for each one of us.

We have seen evolution around us in all sides but very less has changed when it comes to marriage which both advantages and disadvantages. Whenever we talk about marriage or bring this topic in front of our parents, all parents whether they live in Kashmir or Kanyakumari have only 1 thing to say. “I din’t even see your Dad/Mom it was our parents who met and decided. We were not even asked, still we are together unlike your generation because we kept patients and we were trained to keep respect for our parent’s decision even if we need to sacrifice ourselves till the very end. You guys don’t have that.” Do you think that all true ? No it isn’t. At least not according to me. It was just that people had more important things to do in life rather than take out time and think of the life partner. Most of them were busy doing their regular work.

Then new generation came, the generation which started marrying after 2006/07. Over here most of the people living in the urban areas started doing love marriages. Reason behind that was having enough to think about own life, own likes and dislikes. Having Ample amount of time watching television and being more independent. They started choosing their own life partner outside there caste/religion and everyone gave it a name “love marriage”. Do you really think everyone doing so called “Love Marriage” has really some love ingrained in it ? Unfortunately Most of them do not.

An average human being has an innocent nature where he doesn’t distinguish what’s right for him and what wrong for him and that age is somewhere around 18/19 after that most of us lose that innocent property. Whom ever you meet after that age it is really difficult to choose them without judging them. So when we say we are in love it is not the pure love we normally read in books or we are channelised to see in cinema. It just an reaction from brain telling us that most of the criteria is full filled whatever you want and rest of the work is done by the hormones so all of us get excited and many of us end up marrying those life partners. Saying it as love marriage which it is actually not. It is more of “YOU HAVE ARRANGED A PARTNER TO SPEND YOUR REST OF LIFETIME WITH” nothing more than that. We see people in same profession, working in same company getting married together even though they are of different caste/religion etc. They sound in front of other that we had the privilege to choose our own partner and we are in love with each other unlike “Arranged Marriage” couple. Whenever someone tells you this it’s not true guys. TELL THEM TO SHUT UP!!.

There are really FEW, VERY FEW people who fall in love during their innocent age and get married to them. That is something we can consider as real “Love relation” rest all is just an image everyone has in mind.

In western countries people marry 2 3 times and every time they choose their own partner but they never use the word “love marriage” because they know it something else.

Its not that we cannot have love after certain age we can but it hard to release because we are capped by properties like “skin colour, money they have, there nature and other stuff. WHEN YOU DON’T CHOOSE ANYONE BUT HE AUTOMATICALLY BECOMES APART OF YOU THAT IS WHAT WE CAN CALL AS LOVE.

Best,